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Live now


each moment

Today is taking place right now, in this very hour, minuet, second, and as the hand on the clock moves forward it will never happen again. Live for now, not what has been and not what could be.


Live in the moment

The stressors of our lives very rarely last for long periods of time, it is a fleeting thought, conversation or event that can uproot our daily routine and send us into a state of anxiety, stress, shock and disarray. They of course can have a lingering after effect on our daily lives and the way in which must adapt and move about in them. Yet the event has been and gone and now we are left with that needs to be done to move forward.

So should we just choose to let go and never look back, I don’t believe so. I think that for most of us to ask this of us would only induce more stress. However with time the magnitude of some events can diminish and we can indeed move forward freely without their impact. What about the fleeting thought, that is something that we have capacity to change in that very moment. We have the power to stop mid thought and change the direction of it, yet do we? Again for the most of us no we do not and we allow it to set off a chain reaction of other thoughts that can impinge on our perception of life and what it is and how it could be. A conversation can never be had again so it choose words wisely before you speak with a forked-tongue. I know when I feel angry upset or hurt I have adopted the mindset of ‘are my words truthful are the productive or am I lashing out as I feel out of control’ if I answer yes to the last part then my words stay put and are not spoken.

What about those of us who stressors are in the future of what could be? Well it may never be. The future is always that the future. Smart planning in our lives can certainly help reduce the stress of the unknown. Obviously the choice you make today can affect some parts of your future. Never saving can affect your ability to fee financial secure. Not have goals or aspirations can leave you feeling like you are floundering. (Though some people are happy to wander and discover all they need as they do). One thing however to be taken into account is that nobody is guaranteed their future, it is a gift. Right now you are all guaranteed to simply have now this moment.

Few can claim to live a totally stress free life, yet many more can reduce the stress in their life if they chose to live for now. A shift in focus to the now can bring about new clear thoughts. We can allow ourselves to enjoy the moment rather than allow hurt from the past or fear of the future to rob us of this time. Regret comes from not living life.Everyone will die yet not everyone lives.

Right now in this moment chose to live. Choose to not allow the past or future to rob you of the present.







Calm without fear


fearsSaturday morning and there is a sense of calm in our house. Everything is still up in the air after last weeks news of job loss and no income, a lot of things seem like they are so much further out of reach then they did before and uncertainty about the future still runs strong, yet there is calm.

There is calm because we choose it to be, there is calm because I choose not to function in fear. Fear grabbed hold on Thursday and Friday and I am sure it will grab hold again and again, yet I will choose how I deal with it and I will choose to send it away. I have always loved this particular saying about fear:door

Fear knocked at the door, Fear answered the door, and Fear went away.

My home is for me my sanctuary, it where I feel comfortable, protected, loved. So my home has no place for fear to reside within it. Fear is the biggest killer of our hopes and dreams, it eats away at the soul-destroying it if allowed. I wont allow it to eat away at mine. While many of these dreams seem like they have been placed in a holding pattern for the present time they are still there and they are still achievable. They may take a little more work, a little more tenacity to achieve, but they will be achieved. The beauty is that these dreams while in a holding pattern actually allow me to review them, they allow me to see them more clearly. Some may no longer be needed in my life, and some fuel stellar determination pushing me towards success.

If we allow fear to circle this holding pattern of dreams, as it does for so many of us, it throws life into chaos, yet it need not be that way. I choose that fear can be my friend, fear can show me when something truly is not right, like the person you meet who you just know to stay away from, when walking home late at night fear helps heighten the senses allowing us to make the trip safely. Yet fear for the sake of holding me back and turning my thoughts upside down is not my friend.

So how do I get rid of it and bring about the calm

  • meditation, this can be sitting quietly or walking in nature for me it brings clarity.
  • staying hydrated, sounds silly but the body needs to function correctly so that your mind is clear.
  • I wash negative and fearful thoughts away, I imagine fear going down the drain while I am in the shower, or washing my hands.
  • reading, take some time and read something inspirational, uplifting and heart warming.
  • laughter, learn to laugh and laugh often, fear hates laughter so laugh at it.
  • face it, a fear you hid or push out of site is still a fear that is allowed to reside in your mind, slowly eating away at it.
  • Surround yourself with the people you love, friends and family.

Fear is not a place I wish to live my life and so allowing it in for two days this week was not a pleasant experience, however once I faced it I was able to see clearly what had cause the fear and I am able to work on that and move past it. Allowing for a place of calm even while surrounded by uncertainty.relax