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Through life we have either stumbling blocks or steeping stones. I choose stepping stones, it makes the journey just a tad easier along the way. Hope your journey has stepping stones as well.

A Birthday Message From Above

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Aunty Mo Memorial Garden

Aunty Mo Memorial Garden

My aunty celebrated her 70th Birthday on Saturday, no longer here in the living as her spirit past 10 years ago this year. She was my fathers only sister and while they had not the strongest of relationships as children in later adult life they had formed a great bond. Her daughters have always been inspirational to me. They babysit me as a child and I babysit 2 of their children as a young adult, now we joke that their children will babysit my kids. In the final days before her passing I stayed overnight with her two daughters at the hospital and watched her delicate breath being to seep away from her.  As a medium and someone who has regular conversations with those who have departed it was totally different feeling to sit and wait for a loved one to take their last earthly breath.

I was not there when she passed and yet her sense of pride, honour and don’t mess with attitude was. She was a strong women who knew what she wanted in life and was never afraid to go get it. So it should be no surprise then that in death she still gets what she wants. On her 70th Birthday she did just that.

My father has planted an oak tree on his property for her, he lives over 3 hours from where her ashes are buried and wanted a memorial garden for his sister. Only a week or so prior he had been to theBunnings the local hardware chain store in Bathurst and found a pot which he would turn over and use as an obelisk to place her original burial plaque on it which had been given to him by her eldest daughter the week before hand at her 10th anniversary. The pot cost $80 and was out of reach for my father to just buy then and there.

We arrived at my parents place late Thursday night and my father and I stayed up talking until 2 am in the morning, we had a wonderful time and he showed me the ideas he had for his sister. As he did I felt the connection with his father, my grandfather who had passed when he was just reaching adult hood. His father relayed to me the way the garden was to be done a message I gave to my father.

Good Friday saw the family just relax on the property and not really do much of anything. On Saturday however my husband and I made our way in a town called Orange, my aunt’s eyes where a brown that often to me looked to take on an orange tone, its how I remember her. We drove to the Bunnings in Orange, there we found the pot my father had spoken about however it was shown under a different price, we called a staff member over who informed us that no it was actually $80. We asked if that was the best they could do, even I chipped in asking for a lower price, something I just don’t do.  As the staff member walked away to check on a new price I turned and say that to the left of the pot they were selling ‘Stepping Stones” I said to my husband there’s the sign we will get it cheaper my aunty wants us to. The staff member returned and offered it to us for $50, we took it. We then brought the glue and found a gecko the symbol the whole family has for my aunty.

Proud of our negotiation skills we head back to parents property to gift the items to my father, once we had them all in place we let him know the whole lot came to $70. He took a picture of it and sent it to his two nieces who then informed it was their mum 70th Birthday today. Something my father never remembers, he is lucky to remember his own.

So on her 70th birthday she did was she does best ‘get what she wants’ we drove to Orange the colour reminds me of her eyes. The pot was located to next to stepping Stones. We bargained (something I don’t do) we got the pot the glue and gecko for $70 and her memorial in the garden by the oak tree in complete.

So happy 70th Birthday to a strong, tenacious, brave, vibrant, women. We all love that you are still around. She had the song below played at her funeral and really it sums it up, as a medium I know we never walk alone and this weekend she indeed showed us all that she still walks with us.

May you all know that you never walk alone.

xx

 

I forgive you

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I forgive you

I forgive you

I am writing this while it is still raw so excuse the errrors I may make. I need to do this before I sleep tonight, I need to release this so I will just write and may the words fall the way they are needed for all. I am letting go and sending you love while I do I send the love to your family.

 

I know I was harsh when you came tonight. I had a raw nerve that I thought I had long dealt with. I may have not welcomed you with open arms as you hesitate to speak I am sorry.

You going left a massive wound one that is not easy to repair. A void that people struggle to know how to fill.

That night, that day was and still is vivid in my mind, tonight it all came flooding back and I found the tears stream down my face. You made me cry in front of hundreds of people tonight, not an easy task as you would know.

I know you struggled and the signs we saw, I am sorry I didn’t act on them but I am not sure it would have kept you here anyway.

I find myself now sitting here crying again because you gave back tonight, I am crying because I see your face, your body there. I am crying because I can’t fill the void it left your family and they miss you so much. I am crying because you gave me permission to heal and to let go. I am crying because you had the courage to step on the stage even when I treated you harshly.

Your words of acknowledgement, thanks and love touched my heart. It means a lot to me that you understood and saw what was happening at the time. That first 24hours rocked the worlds of many to the core. I want you to know I was happy to be there to support. To hold her hand and yours. I want you to know she still hates the way I make tea. I am glad you could see the loved that surrounded you even if it was too late for the physical world.

I guess what I need you to know is I forgive you.

Please thank the loved one in spirit who brought you there tonight. I know that my family and two beautiful souls who passed after you orchestrated tonight to allow this healing to take place. I will always hold a place for you in my heart and I will pass your message on to her as soon as dawn breaks.

With all my heart may you now be in peace and until we talk again

Love

Rita

 

A special thanks to Greta and Lisa without you both this would not have happened.

Ticker box syndrome

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do you fit

do you fit

I am not one who likes to follow conventional rules I never have been. I have always found it annoying that I need to certain things so that I can be viewed correctly by societies standards. I call it the ticker box syndrome just my spin on it. You know were you just have to go through the motions and get that boxed ticked so that you fit the picture of what people want so you can move forward in life.

Recently a friend and I had to visit Centerlink for government assistance, she had just lost her job and required help. Her circumstances certainly explained why her job had to go. Yet upon filling out all the questions with the worker at the office you just knew that a computer program was sorting her into a category regardless of her circumstance which were too out of the box for it to deal with. The end result we will help you but ……….. Yes she now has to tick a few more boxes and wont receive the true help she needs. However speaking of her current situation it is clear for the world to see that it is rather unusual and thankful does not happen all the time. Even the lady processing her claim admitted that she would be much better on a different payment but she lack a piece of paper to allow the computer system to tick that box.

Take the person who has so much life experience to offer in certain field of work, they are clearly a person who is truly capable of completing the tasks required but

because they don’t have the degree required they don’t tick the box so no job for them. Class room theory out ways real life experience. We may as well be playing Monopoly where one pulls the jail card ‘go not pass go, go directly to jail, do not collect $200’.

My son has trouble getting the written word down so exams that are written for him are not going to allow him to show his understanding, rather they just cause stress

no passing go for you

no passing go for you

and eventually a melt down. However asking him the question and he can articulate the answer, yet that doesn’t tick the box so no passing go and collecting $200 for him either.

What about the person who nearly makes the marks to gain entry to university to follow their passion but not quite there sorry yet again while it’s your passion the bell curve you score was graded on said NO. But that’s okay we will let the person in who really has no passion for this and is just heading to university because society says that’s what we should do.

And never mind if you have a dream that is not quite what people think you can be achieved. Simply the answer is no, you can’t achieve that until you do this, that and this and then only the lucky can do that. What if you actually can do it and don’t need this and that ? You still have to tick the boxes.

Ticker boxes I don’t like them on forms, and I don’t like fitting the mould that people think one should be. I am me and my situation, passions and experience are uniquely mine. No one else shares them so how to they fit a generic box.

So let’s stop the mentality that we all need to fit a certain way, follow a conventional path to achieve our dreams. I am not asking for anarchy were there are no rules I am asking for common sense we each person is valued for the individuality and all they can offer. Everyone has strengths and weakness why do we not allow people to play their strengths? Let’s be smart about this, a tick box is a way of saying ‘I don’t have to think about it you don’t get a tick so you don’t fit.’  It takes the human brain out of the decision making process. Are we not capable of rational common sense thought, do we not have empathy can allow us to see when a situation needs to be addressed in a different manner.

 

Ban the tick box and celebrate who we are !

Be you

Be you

 

The writer is ready

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writingSo I know I need to keep going however I am not sure how much coffee the human body can consume in one day and still remain with the ability to function. A friend suggested energy drinks but YUK I can even stand the smell of them. I am hopeful that my body will eventually understand that the standard 3 am wake up is so I can play through the next chapter in my mind before getting out of bed an hour or so later to write it.

Todays chapter is a hard one, for me it shows the first signs that we understand later one were missed. My main character is to young and to see if yet but what she misses now will bring it crashing down around her later.  I have been awake since three with the message/song “say something I’m giving up on you” rolling around my head. What pity the words fall on deaf ears only later to come back and haunt this character.

We all miss opportunities in life when things could have been steered in new directions, when people could have chosen not to glance over what was there all along. Guess that whats makes the journey we are on a free one. One that we can choose to be blind to, one that we can choose to explore, one that we can choose to change.

Well the coffee is made and the writer is ready ………… the best part the blinds are open and in a few hours I will get to watch the sun kiss the sky.

Enjoy your day everyone.

Live now

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each moment

Today is taking place right now, in this very hour, minuet, second, and as the hand on the clock moves forward it will never happen again. Live for now, not what has been and not what could be.

 

Live in the moment

 
The stressors of our lives very rarely last for long periods of time, it is a fleeting thought, conversation or event that can uproot our daily routine and send us into a state of anxiety, stress, shock and disarray. They of course can have a lingering after effect on our daily lives and the way in which must adapt and move about in them. Yet the event has been and gone and now we are left with that needs to be done to move forward.

 
So should we just choose to let go and never look back, I don’t believe so. I think that for most of us to ask this of us would only induce more stress. However with time the magnitude of some events can diminish and we can indeed move forward freely without their impact. What about the fleeting thought, that is something that we have capacity to change in that very moment. We have the power to stop mid thought and change the direction of it, yet do we? Again for the most of us no we do not and we allow it to set off a chain reaction of other thoughts that can impinge on our perception of life and what it is and how it could be. A conversation can never be had again so it choose words wisely before you speak with a forked-tongue. I know when I feel angry upset or hurt I have adopted the mindset of ‘are my words truthful are the productive or am I lashing out as I feel out of control’ if I answer yes to the last part then my words stay put and are not spoken.

 
What about those of us who stressors are in the future of what could be? Well it may never be. The future is always that the future. Smart planning in our lives can certainly help reduce the stress of the unknown. Obviously the choice you make today can affect some parts of your future. Never saving can affect your ability to fee financial secure. Not have goals or aspirations can leave you feeling like you are floundering. (Though some people are happy to wander and discover all they need as they do). One thing however to be taken into account is that nobody is guaranteed their future, it is a gift. Right now you are all guaranteed to simply have now this moment.

 
Few can claim to live a totally stress free life, yet many more can reduce the stress in their life if they chose to live for now. A shift in focus to the now can bring about new clear thoughts. We can allow ourselves to enjoy the moment rather than allow hurt from the past or fear of the future to rob us of this time. Regret comes from not living life.Everyone will die yet not everyone lives.

 
Right now in this moment chose to live. Choose to not allow the past or future to rob you of the present.

thismoment

NOW

 

 

 

Stop for a moment

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rest4awhileBeyond the hectic pace of life there lies a time in the day, I am sure its different for all of us where we get to catch our breath and rest. Even if only for a second or two we get a moment in time that belongs to us and not the world outside.

It is in this time that we can stand still and see the day for how it was, or how we want it to be. We can see ourselves for all we have achieve and what is left to be done. It is not a time to beat ourselves up, though I am sure a few of us do. It is simple a moment when we can rest.

Yet how many take the time to actually stop, before we falling into bed exhausted by the day; be it  happy, fast paced full of excitement, filled with mundane repetitive routines or surrounded by challenges and interruptions. How many of us STOP and catch our breath.

My child are taught to Stop, Breath, Think then Speak. Why because I want them to be aware of the moment in time when they can stop. I want them to know the power of their breath and how it can relax and refocus them. I want them to have the ability to think without chaos, I want them to speak with clarity so the world may understand them as they grow.

Have we adults lost the art of being able to stop. I believe we have and now we just collapse.  I run a meditation class and for me the beauty of it lays within the gentle snoring I hear.  I know at that moment even though they have now drifted off they have stopped and caught their breath.  We all laugh when we come out of our meditative state and finger-pointing takes over “who snored” …. “was that you?” No one is upset by it because everyone there got to stop and rest. They each gave back to themselves a moment in time they otherwise would have filled with stuff that could wait.

Adults need to teach our children its okay to stop, children now days don’t know the art of stopping long enough to wait. They want it all now now now now. And we indulge it because it easier than the screams and complaints that follow. But what if you asked them to stop and rest. To close their eyes and just focus on their breath. What if in that moment you stopped as well and watch as the world went by?

Sit back relax and stop for just a moment in time

 

As they truly are

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hidden jewelTime to stop viewing people as we think they should be.

Time to stop believe they are the image we create them to be.

Time to let go of what you want and rather let them be who they are

Time for judgement to be thrown away, it was never yours to give anyway

Time for the finger to no longer be pointed unless you point it at yourself.

 

Is it not time for you to see the person for who they truly are?

 

Why do you look for some thing that is not there?

Why do you choose to make choices for them?

Why do place your label upon them?

Why are they not what you want them to be?

Are they not good enough being them?

October Moon

October Moon

 

Is it not time for you to see the person for who they truly are?

 

Disappointed because they don’t live to your imagery.

Disappointed because they don’t share your view.

Disappointed because they are them and not you.

Disappointed about how you now judge.

Disappointed that you missed so much, being to blind to see.

 

Is it not time for you to see the person for who they truly are?

 

Perhaps this time you can see the person for who they truly are.

Perhaps now you are no longer blind.

Perhaps you now have a choice to be you while they be them.

Perhaps now your judgement is gone.

Perhaps now you can be friends.

 

Now the shackles of your projections  have gone.

Finally it’s time and you can see the person for who they truly are.

art work by Pam Barry

art work by Pam Barry

Nothing is impossible

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Devine Time

Devine Time

‘Trust in the Divine presence of timing’ a short little sentence that has filled every dream that came to me last night. A nice little reminder to me to have the trust needed; to move forward without placing obstacles in the way.

Obstacles that we all throw at ourselves every now and then. You know the one that we throw most Self doubt.

So my many dreams last night I am sure where to remind me of how to keep that obstacle at bay. Let the ego rack off since that’s where most obstacles come from and just move forward even if it is only one step at a time.

But why the self-doubt, what was plaguing my mind. Simple really financial issues. It has always been my weakness, even when I am feeling like all is going smoothly in life. The slightest hiccup with finances years ago saw me crumble. I have come along way since then and now don’t allow lack of money to interrupt the daily joy of life. Yet after 8 weeks of my husband not working it was starting to creep up on me. I know where we stand financial right now and we are by no means broke. However I also know how long the money we have left will last and it can be counted in days and weeks not months and years like I would like it to be.

Financial self-doubt was creeping up again, getting ready to raise its ugly head. Well sorry ego I have other planes and it doesn’t involve crumbling at this little hiccup. So last night in my dreams the message over and over again as my subconscious leapt from one dream to another was :

Trust in the Divine presence of timing

And this I plan to do. It doesn’t mean sitting here waiting for the knock at the door and it all changes it means being proactive in life. Too many people think that they can wish it or manifest it by simply sitting there wanting it bad enough. NO! You can’t to gain anything in life by wanting it bad enough. You must be an active participant in life and go out and take action to allow it happen. Divine timing will open the door at the right time, but that wont be your front door it be one of the doors you knock on.

If you follow these simple principle manifesting what you need is achievable:chase the dream

Firstly address your thought process,

  • Negative thoughts allow for continued negativity in your life.
  • Positive thoughts allow for continued positivity in your life.
  • Change your thoughts change your life.

Secondly get clear about what you want and why

  • A million dollars is fine to want but why do you want it, do you truly need it to be happy.
  • Health, happiness and harmony have so much more value than a million dollars.

Thirdly be clear how you ask for it

  • Debt free sure;  Bankruptcy can get you debt free. Or do you want that or the ability to pay off your debt with ease ?
  • If you want a new job no problem, do you need to lose it first, or transition smoothly into a new one?

Fourthly be prepared to work towards the goal, participate and create momentum for it to flow towards you.

  • If you want a new home, you need to be working out the budget, saving extra if needed, get your old home ready for sale,  you are not Dorothy and it wont just fall out of the sky.
  • After the love of your life, they are not knocking at your front door either, so if you stay home and don’t go out socializing they are not showing up. Get out of your comfort zone.
  • New career, but no skills or qualifications in it, well then open the text-book, enrol in the course get working towards it.

Finally never let the obstacles hold you back

  • Be persistent don’t give up because the first door didn’t open, it wasnt meant to, you are meant to keep going, Trust in the Divine presence of timing.

    nothing is impossible

    nothing is impossible

  • When others say you can’t let them know I can and I will.
  • Know you can achieve it. Believe in the power of you.
  • Be thankful for the process Attitude of gratitude.
  • Dont fear change Live without regret.

 

Climb the dream

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dream treeIn the backyard sat a large tree.

So tall it almost reach the sky.

Louis sat down underneath it and said “ one day I will be able to climb”.

He sat there and dreamt of climbing that tree.

He dreamt and he dreamt of what an amazing day it would.

 

The years rolled on and time slipped by.

Louis soon forgot the dream to climb.

Instead his days became filled with this and that.

He filled them with work and filled them with that.

Untill one day not so long ago he ventured back  home.

 

Upon arrival he looked around so many memories so profound.

Louis stepped outside and looked up to the sky the tree was still and still ever so high.

He sat down below in and remembered the dream he had as a child.

Slow he stood and question why, why oh why had he never climbed.

 

So with new determination he reached for a branch.beleive

He grabbed and held on tight and lifted himself up with all his might.

He climb and climbed.

Reaching higher and higher.

 

When finally at the top he look around and survayed all he could see.

The world was a very different place from up in this tree.

Instead of why not he suddenly though I can.

Instead of why me he thought yes me.

 

From the top of the tree dreams came rushing back.

The ability to achieve all that he wanted to be.

He stayed for hours as enjoyed the view.

 

And as the sun set he climbed back down.

He thank himself for the joy he had found.

From climbing the tree had set him free.

Now life would now be what he wanted it to be.

 

From that day forth Louis never gave up on a dream.childhood dreams

Most importantly he taught his children the power of achieving their dreams.

So while the tree still stands tall in the backyard.

The children climb and realise the dream.

They are free to live a life just as beautiful as the tree.

Always look on the bright side of life

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brighterlifeWhile out with a friend of mine today she mentioned how my posts on social media have been positive, no negativity at all. I replied yep can’t be bothered to share negativity. I explained that yes I have bad moments in the day it’s not happy smily 24/7. Yet really is Facebook  or other media areas the place to air the dirty laundry and she agreed it’s not. She herself is not one to put negativity out there into the world of social media.

To me and to many others who just don’t say it Facebook and other social medial outlets are not the place to air your daily dummy-spits or let off steam about small things like breaking a nail. I am not saying don’t let of a little steam now and then, by all means post away. For some, there is some great advice given.  I am talking more about the posts that are a perpetual cycle of “my life sux!” it  just becomes BORING especially if you don’t actively participate in making changes for the better. I actually am not that interested in what happened in your day. I know that’s harsh, and before you complain hear me out.

 

  1. You have had a bad day….. so has the rest of the world at some stage, I don’t want to hear about it …..instead tell me what went RIGHT!
  2. You can’t buy the dress/perfume/bag/tv whatever you want……………… be thankful you can buy food.
  3. You are having a fight……………….be thankful you have voice ……………and chose to walk away from relationships that don’t work.
  4. You are not happy with your weight………………. be thankful you have the power to change it.
  5. You are not happy with your job …………….be thankful you can change that.
  6. You are not happy with the world in general………….. look harder there is a reason to be thankful you just glanced over it or chose to ignore it.

I teach my children to tell me what they are thankful for each day. They wake and love the day they are entering into. Yes they have bad days we all do, yet at the end of the day I ask them what has made them happy today. Most times my 7 years old replies “you mummy, and daddy and the whole family”. Master 11 who is a little more wise to the hurt that can be found in the world will start with telling me what went wrong. I don’t shut him down for this I simply ask ok …… “tell me what went right for you today?” and yes something always goes right no matter how bad the day.

Am I saying you wont have really bad dark days? NO! hell no we have all had them. The difference is in how we chose to share these days and little hiccups in your day don’t need to make social media headlines. Have I posted stuff that I later regret yes, show me someone who hasn’t, but we can choose to make a more conscious effort this think before we write or speak.

so to end I want to share a motto for life with you all.